Learning the causes of stress requires a deeper look inside yourself instead of at the difficult events and people in your life.
Many people ask me what causes stress. And while I could run down a list of what some consider to be the “biggest causes of stress,” I can be more helpful to you if we discuss the reality behind how or why you feel stressed.
A wise man once told me that, "Beliefs, not events, cause emotions and behaviors."
What that means is that what we are telling ourselves (consciously and subconsciously) about a particular event will either create a stress response or it won’t. The event itself doesn’t cause stress, but if we believe that the event was bad, or awful, or unfair, etc. that will create stress.
What you believe about life, the world, and things that happen to you and around you, and what you tell yourself about these things dictates whether or not you experience anxiety and stress.
If your boss yells at you, that event itself doesn't have to be stressful. But if you believe that what your boss did was unfair that can cause you stress. Especially if you believe that it shouldn't have happened or that you didn't deserve it.
The true causes of stress are your individual beliefs.
This does not mean that your beliefs are wrong necessarily... we’re all entitled to have our own beliefs and opinions. However, if you have limiting beliefs that are causing you a lot of stress, it may be time to challenge them. It’s sometimes helpful to talk to a neutral party to help you discover and talk through other options you have rather than hanging onto beliefs that are a source of stress and anxiety in your life.
So even if your boss yells at you and tells you that you are the worst employee that ever walked the face of the earth, you get to decide how you are going to feel about his/her statement.
How you feel about that statement will be directly tied to your beliefs about it.
You have the power and the right to change what you believe, regardless of the type of stress. You have the right to be happy and live a less stressful life.
Can it be tough to change your beliefs? Sure it can. Some people find it easier to blame other people and events for their stress. I know it can be difficult to accept responsibility and learn to work on yourself rather than blaming others. It's easier to sit around and feel that we've been wronged or that life is unfair.
The truth is that we all face difficult situations, such as these main causes of stress … it is a part of life. No one is excluded from this. I am no exception. You are no exception.
But when you realize that your own thoughts and feelings are your causes of stress, you now have the power to change them. You may not be able to change the difficult events, situations, and people you encounter in your life, but you can change how you react to them. And doing that will set you free.
Learning to challenge and change limiting beliefs will be one of the most powerful tools in your stress management toolbox. The simplified step-by-step instructions on how to harness the power of this amazing technique is included in The Stressful Lives Stress Management Workbook. This one tool alone will change your life and the way you see it.
Speaking of change...
Change is one of the biggest causes of stress. When things are changing or even if you have a fear or worry about things changing, you're going to experience stress. Learn how to deal with that better with the "Living with Uncertainty" hypnosis download.
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