EFT for insomnia
by Wendy Sheppard, MSW
As they say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree! I'm not a sleeper. Neither is my son. I used to joke that the longest stretch my son ever slept until he was 6 years old was the first night he was born - he slept for 5 hours straight. And then never again.
I've never been a sleeper either. And it's probably one of the reasons why I have fibromyalgia. I do worry that my son is "fibromyalgia waiting to happen." But hopefully I've hit on something that can help both of us.
For many years my son would go to bed and get up 4, 5, 6 times throughout the night. And those were the good nights. He worries a lot. So I know a big part of his problem is he can't turn his head off (again with the apple!).
In the last 6 months or so I stumbled back onto EFT - Emotional Freedom Therapy. It's a technique that's akin to acupuncture - where you tap into energy in your body. But you don't use needles, you just use your finger tips to literally tap the energy points.
One night my son was having a really hard time sleeping. He was upset about something and his anxiety was through the roof. He was crying and he had a stress headache. I did tapping on him - three rounds, and his headache went away, he calmed down, and he slept like a baby. Many nights since then he has tapped himself or he asks me to tap him when he can't sleep or if he's afraid he might not be able to sleep. It helps him fall asleep every time!!
Whenever I can't turn my head off, I do some rounds of tapping to clear my head of whatever is floating around up there and then I can sleep. It's the most amazing thing. I wish I'd started using it sooner ... for both of us.
Oh, and here's one other fantastic experience. My son has "nuclear meltdowns." He's 13, but when something upsets him or he's really anxious about something, he can end up in nuclear meltdown mode. It starts with him talking really fast, becoming upset, he runs his hands through his hair sometimes pulling at it and it always ends up in tears. So one evening he's headed straight for a nuclear meltdown because he had too much homework and (in his mind) no time to get it done. I asked him to stop for a moment and start tapping the side of his hand. I did it too while I made eye contact with him. Then I asked him to tell me his concerns while he continued to tap. He went through his worries, everything he had to get done, all the due dates, etc. As we continued to tap, I told him what the next few days would look like and how he would have time to get all of his work done. In a matter of 30 seconds, the nuclear meltdown was averted, he was calm and he sat down on the couch to watch some tv and relax before diving into his homework. It was amazing! My mom was there while this was all going on. She's experienced more than her share of his meltdowns. She was dumbfounded. She couldn't believe how quickly he got himself out of what normally would have been hours of upset.
I wish every parent knew about EFT. Whenever I get frustrated as we all do with our kids, I just take a few seconds to tap and immediately my frustration subsides and I can calmly address whatever is going on.
Try it! It works!!
-Wendy from EatingDisorders411.com