Learning How to Be Happy
I always say that happiness is having "inner peace". Yet many people chase happiness through money, looks, popularity, love, etc. Many of these things relate to our ego and are often incorrectly tied to our self-esteem.
And while having some of these things may make us feel good or feed our ego, they don't bring true and authentic happiness.
You will only find the details to this answer deep within yourself by knowing what will bring you inner peace. However, you can get closer to that answer by following some general guidelines.
I've found that one of the quickest and easiest ways to be un-happy is by having high levels of un-managed stress.
Stress can do such a number on our minds and bodies that it becomes extremely difficult to fight through and feel happy. In fact, stress actually depletes your body of a hormone called Serotonin which is known as the "happiness chemical". One of the many things that happens when our Serotonin is low is that we lose interest in activities we enjoy... which brings me to my next point...
I know from my own personal experience and from working with others to help them figure out why they're feeling stressed, unhappy, depressed, or anxious that ignoring your passions and ignoring the things and activities you enjoy in life can do more damage than you think.
To have true inner peace and be authentically happy, it's important to feed your soul. One of the ways you do this is by regularly participating in activities that bring you joy and that make you feel inspired.
Too many people get stuck in the daily rut of life and forget about the things they enjoy. After all, we have busy lives, families, responsibilities, and many other people to take care of... and many people feel as though they don't have the ability or can't afford to make time for themselves. But the truth is that unless you make time to feed your soul you will struggle to find long-term happiness.
Believe it or not, a positive attitude can go a long way in bringing you closer to happiness. And the old saying "fake it until you make it" is absolutely true.
Having negative thoughts roll through your head all day will only produce negative results. Whether you realize it or not, the things that we think about have a huge impact on our lives. It effects the way we feel and the way we see the world. And if we see the world in a negative light all the time... well then that will be your reality. Which makes it pretty tough to be happy, doesn't it?
So take a moment to really listen to the chatter that's going on inside your head. Ask yourself if you're sabotaging your own desires to be happy by unnecessary negativity.
If you have a tough time transitioning and seeing things in a positive light, take it slow. Start by feeling neutral. This will remove the negative thoughts but not pressure you to feel "happy" about something you're not ready to have warm and fuzzy thoughts about.
Ultimately if you want to learn how to be happy, be sure you're looking inside yourself and not relying on outside factors such as money or love (for example). And start with the three basics listed on this page (stress management, feeding your soul, and positive thinking) to begin making big steps towards your goal of living a happier life.