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Stress Free Living: How to Be Unhappy
August 04, 2010

Your Passion, Your Stress

August 2010 - Issue #020: How to Be Unhappy

Welcome to the August 2010 issue of Stress Free Living! July was a record month for new subscribers so I want to give a warm welcome to everyone who is getting this ezine for the first time, I’m glad to have you on board!

The weather in my part of the world (Kansas, USA) has been absolutely hot and unbearable and has kept my husband and I from doing some of our favorite outdoor stress reliving activities like fishing and going on walks. So since I’ve been spending much of my time inside, I’ve had time to plan new additions to the site… one of which will be a free aromatherapy e-course… which will be a beginners’ guide to using aromatherapy for stress relief (I’ve even been working on my own recipes). So keep your eyes open for these exciting new additions!

Have a great summer, stay cool, and I hope you enjoy this issue of the Stress Free Living ezine!


“Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake.”
~ Henry David Thoreau

In This Issue...

1. How to Be Unhappy: Ignore Your Passions

2. Featured Submission: Exercise and Relaxation

3. In Case You Missed It

4. All About You

Welcome to the
Stress Free Living Ezine!

How to Be Unhappy: Ignore Your Passions

When we are young, we have many dreams of what we might become when we grow up. These dreams are based upon things that we feel passionately about and often emerge as natural talents and interests. And while those dreams and passions may change and evolve over time, rarely do they go away. However, they often get hidden, forgotten, or stuffed deep down inside when the responsibilities of adulthood become our realities and the focus of our lives.

And as we grow and mature, we somewhere lose sight of our real passions and the things that feed our soul. We begin to view these things as unattainable or unrealistic career choices or even unnecessary hobbies that can be discarded… and our jobs, families, and responsibilities take over as our dreams and passions are pushed aside until they are either forgotten or so far in the past that we can’t imagine bringing them back to life.

But what many people fail to recognize is that these forgotten and buried dreams and passions are always a part of us… a very important part of who we are as individuals. Depriving yourself of an outlet of these natural gifts, talents, and desires can do more harm than you may imagine. These things are food for our soul… an absolute necessity.


As our list of responsibilities grows (especially for those who tend to put others first) often times our own dreams and desires are the first things that we discard.

So maybe once upon a time you wanted to be a photographer… now you don’t have the time or energy to learn the ins and outs of photography much less the money for equipment! So that one thing that you’ve felt passionate about… that makes you feel alive… that feels natural and right… so what, you just forget about it? After all, you have bills to pay, children to raise, chores to do, and let us not forget about the fact that you have to keep going to that job you hate so that you can keep paying your bills, raising your children and having a house to do chores in. Phew… I’m tired just thinking about all of that. No way will you ever be a photographer now… it’s too late.


So now, not only are you overwhelmed by the everyday responsibilities of being an adult in today’s world, you are also being deprived of that one thing (or things) that really makes you feel alive and fulfilled.

Jeeze, no wonder you’re stressed!

In today’s world and with the economy the way it is, you aren’t likely to hear me telling anyone to quit their day job and go haphazardly chasing dreams. But as someone who used to ignore my passions, you won’t get me to accept any excuses either. No matter how big or how silly our passions may seem, there are ways to fulfill them. Sometimes you just have to put your thinking cap on and find the small ways in which you can feed your soul on a regular basis.

So maybe you’re not going to be a world famous photographer… but that doesn’t mean you can’t find time (read: make time) to take photos and share them with your friends and family… or even learn to sell them online. (see

Maybe you can’t hide away in a cabin writing your next Best Seller… but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make time to write and even self-publish your own work. (see

When we don’t challenge ourselves and allow ourselves to participate in activities that make us feel alive and feed our soul, we’re not only inviting stress but also heartbreak and boredom and many other things that can destroy our quality of life.

But when you allow yourself to make these things a priority in your life (even if only for short bits at a time) you’ll be surprised at the renewed sparkle in your eyes. And when you allow yourself to keep these things in your life, you’ll find a remarkable difference in your levels of happiness and overall “life satisfaction” that didn’t exist when you were denying yourself an outlet for your dreams and passions.

It’s amazing how the everyday stresses in life seem to become smaller when you’re living a life filled with things you enjoy. A life without stress does not exist, but a less stressful life awaits you.

Are you feeling inspired? Do you have a passion that you’ve ignored? Click here to answer the question,

Featured Submission

This months' featured submission is from Elda in response to: Happiness is... Pets!

Exercise and Relaxation
by Edla Tessadori, Madrid

I am a happy whippet owner and over the years with my dogs I learned from them to exercise and relax.

My morning walk with my whippets is the best start for the day. It sets my mind and body in motion and gets me ready for whatever the new day will bring.

I don’t even have to jog or make it too intense, my whippets do all the running and it is a joy to watch them.

With my elder whippet we were getting a little lazy but since a new puppy arrived in our life I lost quite a lot of weight and I am working my way into my old jeans. Now, this is happiness!

And what about relaxation? Whippets are true meditation masters. After a good run they can lay on their favorite sofa without stirring for hours at length. I find that there is nothing as relaxing as lounging on the couch with your whippets.

Adding the TV to the setting can solve even the most stubborn cases of insomnia.

I'd like to thank Elda for sharing her story with us! Click here to see this submission online (including picture) and to leave comments for Elda and her pups!

Click here to share your own stories and pictures on how "Happiness is... Pets!"

In Case You Missed It...

Last month I told you about the interview I did with Premier Summits and I invited you all to experience the collective knowledge offered by 21 top stress experts. In case you missed out, there are still ways you can get the benefit of the awesome amount of information that was shared.

All 21 audios have been put together and are available for purchase. Click here for more information.

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All About You

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Wishing you all the very best,

Helping you live a less stressful life.

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