by Anonymous

I work in the veterinary field. I love my job so much but my boss, who is the veterinarian and owner of the clinic, can sometimes be frustrating to work with.

There are only 3 of us plus the doctor that work in the clinic. When we have very little appointments she tends to become harder to deal with.

It seems as though everything is dependent on her mood. One mistake one day can be ok but another day it's not. I got into trouble one time because my boss wanted me to adjust pricing on a product but could not remember the original price. She told me to look at the invoice. I asked her if she remembered what month she had purchased the product. She became upset and told me she would adjust the pricing herself. My co-worker then told me to call a client and give her lab results,which I did. My boss heard me on the phone and became enraged. She started yelling, saying how hard it is to look through the stack of invoices and why can you figure it out on your own. That's what I hired you to do.(which I understand her point but not necessary the deliverence). I was pulled outside the clinic and she continued to yell at me saying I'm only good at the things I know how to do but not willing to jump in and try new things. She asked me if "I could even see how I am," etc,etc. It seemed the more she yelled at me the worse she felt, so she started to calm down. At the end, she told me I was doing a good job and gave me a hug. I simply can't understand it.

Another incident that happened, I haven't been totally accustomed to the system that is used so I gave incorrect cost pricing to the doctor. She took a look at the system and said "I thought you had a business degree, you can't even distinguish cost from price." I explained to her that I had not yet been able to learn the entire system so I had not realized I had another window to look at. The doctor seemed ok after that but these incidents continue to happen.

When she's in a good mood things are great and she's a really understanding doctor regarding personal time and outside difficulities. However, when she's not in a good mood she takes my mistakes and addresses them in a condensending way. She does do the same thing to my other two co-workers but much less and not to the degree she does it with me.

I'm not sure how to deal with it, I've been trying to remain positive but the anxiety of going to work and not knowing what mood she's in is very frustrating. I always feel neasous driving to work.

If anyone has any suggestions please help.

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Sounds Familiar
by: Jill R.


Your story sounds so familiar to me. Unfortunately, I hear stories like this all the time and I've experienced some similar situations as well.

And as much as we can feel hurt and feel as if this "shouldn't" happen... the only thing we can do about it is to control our own reactions to these types of things... because we certainly cannot control the moods of our "bad bosses"!

The first thing you might consider is finding some relaxation techniqes that relieve your acute stress. But it also sounds to me that you need to come up with a plan for the long haul... and I say that with the knowledge that the chances are pretty high that you'll have bosses (or other people) like this in the future. So learning new coping techniques would definitely benfit you and help you to gain new perspectives on the situations that make you feel stressed.

I highly suggest that you check out this page:
Causes of Stress because I believe that it addresses some of what you're going through.

Also, if it makes you feel any better... check out this submission from another visitor that reminded me of yours:
Paranoid Career Killer

Keep us updated and let me know if there's anything I can do to help.

Best Wishes,
Jill R.

by: Anonymous

Thank you for your suggestions. I will defiantly be trying to cope and relieve the stress.

I've been feeling it creep up on me and it's really tearing me up inside. I will keep everyone updated on results and so forth.

If anyone else has any suggestions as well that would be great.

by: Anonymous


This past Saturday when I was working, I made mistakes on a client's chart. I thought I had accurately documented the information. It was not until the end of the day when my boss was furious. She advised me that this may not be the correct position or field for me and maybe I should find a new job. She informed me that my job was not hard to learn and why I don't ask her questions (which is because she usually gets annoyed and doesn't want to help, which I kept to myself). She told me to think about over the weekend.
On Monday we talked and she admitted she was hard on me and she would give me more training when I make mistakes instead of degrading me. She admitted that I actually do a good job. Things seem better since Monday and my boss seems to be making a concerted effort to not degrade me. However, it is extremely slow at the moment and I become stressed when there's nothing to do; that's when my boss notices the most 'mistakes' or 'bad things' I've done.

Any suggestion on directions or focus. I'm trying to stay positive but it's difficult.

Training is the key NEW
by: Tony

This is a difficult situation.Computer systems have their little peculiarities, and what may be handicapping you somewhat is that no-one has taken your training sufficiently seriously. So YOU'll have to make sure that you know the system inside out - maybe there's a colleague who can help you, or maybe the supplier offers a course?

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